“What is a lesbian? To me, a lesbian is a woman-oriented woman; bisexuals can be lesbians. A lesbian does not have to be exclusively woman oriented, she does not have to prove herself in bed, she does not have to hate men, she does not have to be sexually active at all times, she does not have to be a radical feminist. She does not have to like bars, like gay culture, or like being gay. When lesbians degrade other lesbians for not going out to bars, not coming out, being bisexual, or not sexually active, and so on, we oppress each other.”
“Why do women who identify as lesbians go to a bisexuality conference? There were about 10 of us in the room, each with a different answer. Most of our relationships at the present time were with women; after that the similarity ended. One woman had affairs with men when not seriously involved with women. Another, in a non-monogamous long-term lesbian relationship, had recently begun a sexual involvement with a man. One woman, now involved with a bisexual woman, was here to discuss her feelings about the situation. Some of us had led exclusively lesbian lives for a number of years and were wondering if we’d closed off important parts of ourselves. Whether or not we would act on our sexual attractions for men, acknowledging them were important to us.”
“The reason bi and other mspec (multisexual spectrum) women were pushed out of the label was due to the terf movement of the 70s. The terfs saw trans women as men invading women’s spaces, which is blatant transphobia. That escalated to any kind of attraction or connection to men being considered filthy and antithetical to lesbian feminism. Thus, bisexual lesbians were pushed out of the label in order to keep the label for the “pure” lesbians.”
“[The blaming of bisexual women for the AIDS crisis] spurred discussions about the distinction between sexual behavior and sexual identity (for example, many self-identified bisexual women did not have sex with men, while many self-identified lesbians did). Many bisexual women thought it unfair that they were ostracized from lesbian communities for being honest about their dual attractions, while some self-professed lesbians retained their position in those communities by keeping their relationship with men secret.”
Nonbinary people can be included in lesbian attraction and some nonbinary people identify partially as men (demiboys) or fully as men part of the time (genderfluid)
Not all bi lesbians even claim to have attraction to men?
You can not claim that lesbianism is a monosexual (meaning attracted to only 1 gender) identity while also knowing that lesbianism includes nonbinary people (an umbrella term for multiple different genders that don’t match the binary). You are just admitting to seeing nonbinary people as “women lite”.
I don’t usually reblog discourse, but this isn’t discourse at this point. At this point it’s because I want to say my stance on this and stop people from spreading misinfo that TERFs invented bi-lesbians or that bi-lesbians support harassment against other lesbians.
For real. Please learn your history. Please. It’s right here.
very interesting! I’ve been kinda confused about what ‘bi lesbian’ means, so this rly helped. i wish people stopped treating labels/identities as rigid, unchangeable aspects of self. languages change, and identity is fluid and complex! ppl should be free to use whatever language makes them feel most empowered. bi lesbians are fully welcome on my page :)))
feeling the tumblr ecosystem shifting and changing in the days leading up to november 5th like a storm is coming and you’re outside watching the shelf cloud blow in, the leaves flipping and it starts to smells like rain
one thing about western indignation over martyrdom rhetoric (“the children never chose to be martyrs and it’s disrespectful to hold their deaths as martyrdom”) is that nobody in this kind of situation freely chooses to be a martyr. they either pursue martyrdom or it is inevitably brought upon them. in neither case does free choice play into the fact of death to the enemy. in this manner every death is subsumed into the resistance. that is the sense of martyrdom at work here.
[Image ID: A tweet by More Perfect Union, @/MorePerfectUS, reading: Tens of thousands of garment workers in Bangladesh who make products for brands like Zara, H&M and GAP are on strike.
Their minimum wage is $75 a month, and they’re demanding it rise to $208. The bosses are only offering $90.
i believe in accessibility so ive been trying to keep the tone of my posts entry-level and relatively civil. i can afford this much because im not palestinian so i have some degree of removal. but if you guys saw the state of my inbox, you would understand why refusing to justify, explain or clarify anything might be more dignified. there are almost ten thousand people dead right now. i feel like a lot of people are just not understanding the weight of this. more children have been killed in gaza in the past three weeks than in all of the world’s conflicts combined in each of the past three years. this is so far beyond crime, so far beyond mass murder, that sometimes i think entertaining questions about it at all is complicity in and of itself. in a normal world, the entire global apparatus, every international body, would be falling over itself to stop this. the prospect of so many civilians—and most significantly children—dead is actually the worst-case scenario. it is what international law was created to prevent. i say children specifically not because adult palestinians are not equally valuable, but because this is a war on children. gaza’s population is 50% children. these airstrikes are most lethal on the smallest and most vulnerable bodies. entire buildings are crumbling on kids. they are being murdered in their homes, by their homes.
deliberately. by people with the most advanced military and surveillance technology in the world. by people who know exactly where every single civilian in gaza is. by people who have their phone numbers and send them threatening texts. by people who have drones observing their every movement. by people who are watching them starve, bombing their bakeries, barricading their water. they bring down buildings on children on purpose.
i keep seeing rhetoric among usamericans like ‘we have enough problems here, i’m staying out of this’ regarding the genocide in palestine — but there is no staying out of this. you cannot stay out of this. you are already involved. even were it not just a social obligation as a person who lives in this world, it is largely our usamerican tax dollars, our military aid, & our weapons that is making this ongoing genocide against palestinians a reality. and so we are complicit and have been complicit in the forced expulsion & ethnic cleansing of the palestinian people. we are already involved. & we must dissent. we have a responsibility to educate ourselves, to write and call our representatives, to demand a ceasefire, to march when possible in solidarity, to amplify palestinian voices, to support bds in its boycotts, to call for sanctions against the apartheid state of israel, & to do everything in our power to stand up with palestinians
Hey why are your spices in the bathroom and/or your toothbrushes in the kitchen
I keep getting this question so I feel like I need to clarify:
I put everything in one room as a form of comic shorthand to get my point across quickly, the same way I don’t really have fist fights over where to put the cleaning supplies. I don’t actually keep my toothbrush in the kitchen lmao
